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i'm terrified of having kids and i absolutely don't want any.

i don't think i'd make a good mother...all this responsibility...i can't even take care of myself properly, how would i take care of a child?

also, every child thinks that his/her parents have made mistakes in her/his upbrining...some kids hate their parents, are frustrated by them....i mean, i know how i fel towards my parents after a big fight...i just couldn't take it, knowning someone is so angry at me and possibly hates me for a moment (even though i don't hate my parents, of course. i love them. but in some moments...well, you know how it is)

and i don't want to force anyone into this world. i mean, this world is cruel and hard to deal with at times...i don't want to be the reason that a poor little kid has to go through all the pain.

plus, i don't wanna give my genes to anyone...children are usually unlucky enough to only inherit the bad stuff...the few good qualities i have would probably get lost and all the bad traits would be inherited to my kid.

and of course, pain. labor. growing big. all that stuff. truly terrifying.

i figured that out of the three most painful things in life, i've already encountered two, so i figure labour can't be all that bad after that... so i might as well go three for three...

mallis wrote:I mean, I may get over it within a year or so, but that's usually what frightens me the most about having kids. Can I be "gentle" enough to have a child?

You know, this reminds me of something Angelina Jolie said on Inside the Actors Studio a few years ago - it was after she'd adopted Maddox, but before any of the other kids or Brad Pitt had come into the picture. She was talking about meeting Maddox. And how before that she was so dark, never could picture herself with kids because she just didn't think they would like her, but when she held Maddox and he seemed so comfortable and happy with her, then she was converted. It was so cute. So, if she can do it - cause I remember her wild pre-mom days - you can

I definitely want kids. LOTS. I've toned it down lately - I used to want like 6 or something, but then I realized I'd have to get a van, and I'd have to start earlier than I probably will... though... if I got married tomorrow, I would start having kids so I can have a bunch. I've even had them named for awhile. Like, I'm naming my first son Jack which I've had picked out since I was 5. And though I don't think my mom's quite ready to be a grandmother, I know she'll be crazy excited when I have kids, since there's only one of me. She even decided that I should let her homeschool them all. haha

francescamarie wrote:I definitely want kids. LOTS. I've toned it down lately - I used to want like 6 or something, but then I realized I'd have to get a van, and I'd have to start earlier than I probably will... though... if I got married tomorrow, I would start having kids so I can have a bunch. I've even had them named for awhile. Like, I'm naming my first son Jack which I've had picked out since I was 5. And though I don't think my mom's quite ready to be a grandmother, I know she'll be crazy excited when I have kids, since there's only one of me. She even decided that I should let her homeschool them all. haha

Haha, I wish my mom will do that too, when the time comes. Think of all the things my future children will learn from her.

Just thought of sharing: My mom used to hate kids too when she was still young, to the point that she didn't want have any. Now look at her tending 4 kids plus 3 more nieces and nephew, not to mention a whole school of pre-school and elementary students!