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Oh my gosh, that was far far too long. And it was the shortened version :S Sorry!

Hey, i'm joining discussion a bit late and i could not actually keep in mind all the comments i wanted to make concerning your posts.
Well ok..
I'm really feeling with all of you and as i just found out being without a boyfriend since birth is nothing special... so i guess we all should tell us that it's not a bad thing at all!
i have that theory that if you start late, it's probably going to be a real and mor serious relationship if you know what i mean..

I'm quite ok being loveless, but sometimes I get very upset about it. Twilight made me question whether there is such true and strong love like in the book at all.
I'm sometimes having a hard time..
What I want is to find someone to marry..not now but sometime..I don't even know where this wish comes from..I guess it's just about this true love I can hardly believe in..

i also have experience with the best guy friend thing.. it was about two years ago and i guess i couldn't handle him being in love with me ...and he behaved in a way that's hard to explain..he was often so sad wich made me feel bad.
when it got to extreme i was kind of annoyed and we had a couple of arguments concerning my behavior towards other guy friends
anyway after a couple of months we ended up not talking to each other anymore.
We are now friends again. He has a girlfriend and I think he doesn't have any feelings for me anymore and i really hope so. Of course it will never be the same as at the beginning, but at least we're on good terms, now that school ends!

To the topic that a girl is always seen as a mate:
I also get along with boys well, and I think that a guy only choses a girl as a mate that he finds attractive..I have no proof of that but as for what I've experienced, I've never seen a boy hanging around with an unpopular girl (or whatever you want to call it)


I sincerely hope we all are going to find an Edward, Jasper, Emmet, Edwett or someone like them!
You know I find it hard to believe, but there's hope! Just consider that these guys aren't ONLY perfect ( although most aspects of them are perfect). There must be guys
out there who are alike..

It seems to me like what I've written is kind of confusing..just try to understand =)

You are great women.You are special! Don't forget that!

Jo wrote:Oh my gosh, that was far far too long. And it was the shortened version :S Sorry!

same here

I totally agree with you on all of your points. I'm a bit relieved that I'm not the only one who feels that way.

Sorry for re-starting this issue but I kinda need to vent because it's just been one of those weeks...

So all my friends are getting married. And you may say "*psh* Lexi's exaggerating..." but I promise you I'm not. I'm in 3 weddings this year with 3 others to attend plus I know about 10 other friends who are engaged. And I kinda let it get the best of me this weekend when I was out at a bachelorette party.

Everyone there was engaged or had a boyfriend and that's all anyone talked about, all night long. And that's great - don't get me wrong I'm happy for those who are in relationships and happy and all that jazz. But when you constantly have to hear about it...and then be asked a million times (yes, a million because everyone forgets that both them and their neighbor have already asked you this prior to becoming drunk...) where your boyfriend is and what he does.

And then the LOOK you get when you tell them that you don't have a boyfriend. It's a mix between pitty and "oh my god what's wrong with you?!?" Now for the weddings I'm in I thought it'd be ok to not attend with a date because how much time am I really going to be able to spend with my date? Hardly any. But everyone else is bringing a date so I figure I should too....except, I don't have a date. And I don't have anyone willing to go. So I suppose I'll end up going and being the lone bridesmaid who sits at the table while everyone else is up and dancing with their guy.

*Sigh* I love weddings, and I'm totally ok with being single, happy, independent. But sometimes, it just gets the best of you.

Lexiani wrote:Sorry for re-starting this issue but I kinda need to vent because it's just been one of those weeks...

So all my friends are getting married. And you may say "*psh* Lexi's exaggerating..." but I promise you I'm not. I'm in 3 weddings this year with 3 others to attend plus I know about 10 other friends who are engaged. And I kinda let it get the best of me this weekend when I was out at a bachelorette party.

Everyone there was engaged or had a boyfriend and that's all anyone talked about, all night long. And that's great - don't get me wrong I'm happy for those who are in relationships and happy and all that jazz. But when you constantly have to hear about it...and then be asked a million times (yes, a million because everyone forgets that both them and their neighbor have already asked you this prior to becoming drunk...) where your boyfriend is and what he does.

And then the LOOK you get when you tell them that you don't have a boyfriend. It's a mix between pitty and "oh my god what's wrong with you?!?" Now for the weddings I'm in I thought it'd be ok to not attend with a date because how much time am I really going to be able to spend with my date? Hardly any. But everyone else is bringing a date so I figure I should too....except, I don't have a date. And I don't have anyone willing to go. So I suppose I'll end up going and being the lone bridesmaid who sits at the table while everyone else is up and dancing with their guy.

*Sigh* I love weddings, and I'm totally ok with being single, happy, independent. But sometimes, it just gets the best of you.

Ahhh! I can't believe other girls give you looks. That's downright rude. Not to mention, not really any of their business, and not their place to judge.
Obviously, you have high standards. And obviously, you don't rush into things.
As for a date...You could always bring a close guy friend to the wedding?
I'm sorry they are making you feel so crappy.

I have to agree with all of you!! Even though I am only recently 'loveless' I admit to myself now that it's been going down hill for quite sometime now. And on top of all that most of my friends either have steady boyfriends, are engaged or married. It's a bit frustrating sometimes. I am by no means unhappy about my current relationship status only because I know I am better off without him. We were trying our hand at that whole ridiculous long distance relationship thing. The fact that he can never seem to keep himself out of trouble was a factor also. But mainly because we didn't see each other often so all we had was chatting on the pc and talking on the phone. But he always wanted to pick fights with me over stupid things that didn't mean anything. Finally I got sick of it enough that I was like "I'M DONE!".

We'd been dating on and off since we were like 13 (crazy I know). But now that I moved and he actually hasn't been in trouble things just seemed to keep getting worse with us. Fighting all the time and what not. So basically I think I just came to the realization that it wasn't meant to be and that I had put so much time and energy into trying to 'fix' something that never made sense in the first place.

So now I'm living the single life...graciously awaiting my Edward to come and sweep me off my feet!

^^Sorry about all that. But thanks for listening. I really haven't vented about that situation to any of my friends because they are all sick of hearing it. LOL...but I feel much better now that I got it off my chest. They are sick of hearing it because they just think that I am going to end up taking him back again. But what they don't know is that this time...I've never been more serious about it...I actually sat down and weighed out the pros and cons of everything. And I feel so much better about my decision.

Love stinks doesn't it. I'm 21. I've never had a boyfriend and I've never been on a date. While every single one of my friends has a boyfriend, or has had a boyfriend, or they're married. They've experienced it all. I'm so far behind in the dating game that's not even funny... I would love to have a serious relationship with someone. Yet sometimes I feel like I'm the type to date some guys at first then settle with one later on. But I'm unapproachable I guess. Guys just don't like me. Well, the guys that I like anyway.

I'm picky. I like musicians. Guys that are fit (like Edward). And are good looking with good personalities.
Maybe I'm unrealistic... Edward just added fuel to my imagination too. True love, soul mate type of stuff.

Sometimes I feel like I'm never going to find anyone... My other half. Someone who will make me feel whole.

I totally understand you!
As much as I want to find someone....I'm kind of afraid of the whole thing...never done all this stuff...I guess I need to find someone really understanding..
I try to avoid being worried anyway

Kain wrote:Love stinks doesn't it. I'm 21. I've never had a boyfriend and I've never been on a date. While every single one of my friends has a boyfriend, or has had a boyfriend, or they're married. They've experienced it all. I'm so far behind in the dating game that's not even funny... I would love to have a serious relationship with someone. Yet sometimes I feel like I'm the type to date some guys at first then settle with one later on. But I'm unapproachable I guess. Guys just don't like me. Well, the guys that I like anyway.

I'm picky. I like musicians. Guys that are fit (like Edward). And are good looking with good personalities.
Maybe I'm unrealistic... Edward just added fuel to my imagination too. True love, soul mate type of stuff.

Sometimes I feel like I'm never going to find anyone... My other half. Someone who will make me feel whole.

I am with you almost to a T, 21, never had a boyfriend, never been KISSED! My friends are all in relationships it seems. I'm always seen as the 'friend' or 'sister' and also^^^^ I'm the same.. I'm worried that as I get older and still haven't found anyone, that I'm so far behind in the game, and yea.. I lost my train of thought.. I just need to have a very patient understanding guy come along I guess.

I need to tell you guys that I love being around you... I feel there are people who have problems/dreams/wishes similar to mine and who understand me (not only concerning twilight obsession ) I love you!!! =)

Awww...well I love you right back!! I also agree...I mean I have my other friends, but they don't always understand me. Especially not the married ones... GRR!!! LOL

I really agree with DiamondsAreForever - I do love y'all and am sooo glad that there are other people out there with similar problems to mine. Well, not "glad" but you know what I mean...

And Kain - about being picky...I don't really think that's a bad thing. Like me, you have your standards. You're not willing to just settle down with anyone and that right there says something. I use to think that it was a bad thing that there were certain things I would not accept from someone I was in a long-term relationship with. But then I realized that it's better to know now what I don't want than to get involved and find out later that it was something that was a deal breaker for me.

And even though you've never had a boyfriend or a date...think of it this way. While everyone you know who isn't married/engaged/in a relationship is dating every guy that walks by or winks at them...you're weeding those guys out and are getting one more step to finding your Edward.

I have to say, I'm pretty happy that I'm not the only one who hasn't ever had a boyfriend...I generally don't admit that to people! :p It's not that it's really anything to be ashamed of, and it's not like I'm an anti-social person who never had an opportunity to have a boyfriend...but I came from a really small town where the choices were very limited and since I've been at college I just haven't found the right person...the loveless club rocks for sure, because at 20 it's hard to find someone who's not going to look at you sideways if you say you've never really dated or even seriously made out (GASP, pathetic I know lol).

My thing is I don't really want to "date". I have guy friends to hang out with when I just want to go out and have a good time with a guy. If I get into a relationship of some sort I want it to be because it gives me something more than what I've got now, I want to be doing my own thing or I want to be the opposite and in love! I know generally you have to date to find love, but couldn't we all just have the perfect guy as our lab partner? So much faster!

Lexiani wrote:And even though you've never had a boyfriend or a date...think of it this way. While everyone you know who isn't married/engaged/in a relationship is dating every guy that walks by or winks at them...you're weeding those guys out and are getting one more step to finding your Edward.

Exactly. After getting out of my relationship which wasn't exactly a fantastic one. I am just patiently awaiting MY Edward to come sweep my off my feet and take my breath away, so to speak